[NightyNight]

Hi Chirsmoyles.net People

I have been reading and stuff for a while now, a i am fan indeed of chris moyles..

Anyway what has prompted me to post is that i need some advice and sometimes it easy just to talk on the internet to people about it...maybe I am unusual like this.

Right, I have just turned 19 last week, and I have never had a long term boyfriend well i mean recently the last proper boyfriend i had was when i was in year 7, and i have had people that i Fancy, and i have never gone all the way with a guy that doesnt bother me to much.

Here is the problem.

If anyone asks me out, I panic about it, will always say No, and I just thought maybe i didnt fancy them or whatever,

But a couple of months back I was working with this guy and to be honset with you I was head over heals about this guy but he was seeing some girl. so i knew nothing would happen,
He broke up with this girl and while He had been going out with her, i was jealous and always imagined that he would ask me out, and think about what i would do to him and what i would like him to do to me.

So he broke up with his girlfriend and it turned out that he had always liked me, and asked me out.. now When he did this I got the same panic feelings and stopped liking him in that way and i Turned him down, and the resulting weeks we fell out big time all because i wanted to make sure he knew i wasnt intrested.

We are friend now but this really isnt normal way of acting is it really.

And more recently it happened again, this guy i liked we were talking and he was telling me that he liked this girl and i knew full well he was talking about me and i was willing him to say me when i pressed him for a name.
And he did say my name and again i got that fear of Oh My God how am I gonna get out of this. I have told him that I wanted to wait untill the new year and that he should ask me again then, i made up something about having to sort out someone else.

I just worried i am metally messed up or something and i dont Know why

I was hoping for any advice because at this rate i am Gonna die alone and a Virgin

Katie.

[S4B]

Katie. Bite the bullet honey. Ask him out, explain that you get nervous because you've always had guys as mates rather than boyfriends and you're worried about making a tit of yourself. Do this on MSN as it's much easier to do stuff like this when you're not face to face!

You're 19! Nothing wrong with still being a virgin at 19, I was! I can PM you with advice if you want, I'm good at advice of this nature!

[MK Chris]

Do you think she's for real? I have my doubts.

[Boboff]

Scary, I really fancied this girl at school and she was just like our Katie here, I even called her up again after I split with my first wife, and she was still the same, a real tease, but so lovely too. Anyway she finally plucked up the courage and got married at 35, and has just had a little girl ( we still keep in touch) So Kate my advise is chill, make it clear that you want to go at your pace, and see how things develop, do not think that physical contact is any big deal, if it feels right it's right, if it's not, get a Pizza.

Toph you are a scinical (sp)

[moonbeam]

Do you think she's for real? I have my doubts.

I have to agree with topher in this day and age, it is unheard of for someone not to have lost their virginity before their 19! Also i am i the only one who would never pour their heart out on a forum? Seems strange to me, and all this stuff about you thinking about what you want to do to him, do we really need to know about that!

[Yudster]

It's not cynical, no-one in their right minds would seriously attempt to resolve their issues in that way.

[catherine]

Why come on here and waste time typing all that for then? what would she be achieving from it?

[NightyNight]

half of you seem nice,

the other half seem like pricks.

Isnt it mad in this day and age that a 19 year old would be a virgin.
I suppose i should just top myself now because of the shame
Thanks for your help I now know how to get myself out of this problem

I am off to hang myself
I wonder if i should leave a note.

[catherine]

Ohkay don't be too dramatic this is a messageboard not eastenders.

[moonbeam]

There is no need for that language, it will just get you banned. We are all entitled to our own opinions on here . Im my view it is uncommon for people to be virgins at 19, but there is no shame in being one. It just seems odd to me that you would ask a bunch of people you don't know about this,and on a forum that has MANY sarcastic people on it! Take the bull by the horn and just ask the bloddy guy out!

[Sidders]

half of you seem nice,

the other half seem like pricks.

Isnt it mad in this day and age that a 19 year old would be a virgin.
I suppose i should just top myself now because of the shame
Thanks for your help I now know how to get myself out of this problem

I am off to hang myself
I wonder if i should leave a note.

I don't mean this to sound horrible, but you need to decide what you want from this boy because your behaviour is not helping anyone. If you're teasing him it's not going to put him off and he's going to be wondering what he's doing wrong if he suspects you might like him. This sort of behaviour from girls really drives us blokes insane (believe me I know). Just tell him what you've just told us and I'm sure he'll understand and you can take it from there. You might find you'd be happier if you were good friends with him.

And don't worry about being a virgin, I'm 26 and still have my V plates but it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Also don't take any notice of people being horrible on here, they obviously have nothing better to do than to put people down.

[S4B]

There is no need for that language, it will just get you banned. We are all entitled to our own opinions on here . Im my view it is uncommon for people to be virgins at 19, but there is no shame in being one. It just seems odd to me that you would ask a bunch of people you don't know about this,and on a forum that has MANY sarcastic people on it! Take the bull by the horn and just ask the bloddy guy out!

To be fair Moon you use this forum and chatroom as a way to flirt with guys (I too flirt a little on here but at least I have real live guys too!) and you never go out and ask guys out so give the girl a bit of support?

[NightyNight]

I dont think i used bad words, so I dont see why i would be banned.

And i suppose i am sorry for last post, just had a row with my parents, They want me to come to America with them for Like six months and i would eat needles,

I was cross, and then I Came on here and was like that.

And i find it easier because if you do judge me, i can just ignore it easier than telling someone then having to deal with it, if they dont understand or something.

[foot-loose]

And i suppose i am sorry for last post, just had a row with my parents, They want me to come to America with them for Like six months and i would eat needles,

Pot Needles?

[S4B]

Oh very good Mr Loose

[MK Chris]

Do you think she's for real? I have my doubts.

I have to agree with topher in this day and age, it is unheard of for someone not to have lost their virginity before their 19! Also i am i the only one who would never pour their heart out on a forum? Seems strange to me, and all this stuff about you thinking about what you want to do to him, do we really need to know about that!

I didn't mean that. I meant exactly what Yudwuk said. There is absolutely nothing wrong with still being a virgin at 19, 23 or 26. I find it weird someone would come on and ask a bunch of strangers about this; at least Sidders had been on here a long time and it wasn't his first post.

Maybe where you're from in Chavsville (sorry McChavsville) where no one over 12 is a virgin and no one over 14 is childless, this is a weird concept.

[Quincy]

half of you seem nice,

the other half seem like pricks.

Isnt it mad in this day and age that a 19 year old would be a virgin.
I suppose i should just top myself now because of the shame
Thanks for your help I now know how to get myself out of this problem

I am off to hang myself
I wonder if i should leave a note.

my mate is 24 and hes a virgin. dont worry about it.

[moonbeam]

I did'nt mean to sound as though i thought being a virgin at 19 was a for foreign concept for me. I don't care if your a virgin for gods sake! Virgin all the way!!

To be fair Moon you use this forum and chatroom as a way to flirt with guys (I too flirt a little on here but at least I have real live guys too!) and you never go out and ask guys out so give the girl a bit of support?

Oh s4b don't you know when someone is joking around!

[moonbeam]

To be fair Moon you use this forum and chatroom as a way to flirt with guys (I too flirt a little on here but at least I have real live guys too!) and you never go out and ask guys out so give the girl a bit of support?

Also there is a damm good reason why i don't go out much!

[S4B]

Can't be bothered?

[moonbeam]

I thought you were nice s4b!

[kendra k]

I don't mean this to sound horrible, but you need to decide what you want from this boy because your behaviour is not helping anyone. If you're teasing him it's not going to put him off and he's going to be wondering what he's doing wrong if he suspects you might like him. This sort of behaviour from girls really drives us blokes insane (believe me I know). Just tell him what you've just told us and I'm sure he'll understand and you can take it from there. You might find you'd be happier if you were good friends with him.

And don't worry about being a virgin, I'm 26 and still have my V plates but it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Also don't take any notice of people being horrible on here, they obviously have nothing better to do than to put people down.

relationship advice from sidders? ha!

i agree that sending mixed signals is a quick way to ward off any suitor. it's why i stopped looking for love long before i found it.

also, being a virgin is as big of a deal as you make it. my parter was a virgin at 26 when we first met, and he had no issue with it. i was a virgin then too, and it wasn't like i went around bemoaning the fact all over the internet. i know i'm std free.

everybody just needs to chillax.

[S4B]

I thought you were nice s4b!

No Moon I'm a biatch who hides under the personna of being nice! It's a mistake many have made!

[Ballbag]

half of you seem nice,

the other half seem like pricks.

Isnt it mad in this day and age that a 19 year old would be a virgin.
I suppose i should just top myself now because of the shame
Thanks for your help I now know how to get myself out of this problem

I am off to hang myself
I wonder if i should leave a note.

my mate is 24 and hes a virgin. dont worry about it.

My mate's a virgin and he's 27.... we rib him about it daily and he seems to get by. So don't worry too much.

[Vivienne]

My impression from reading through your stuff is that you don't place a high enough value on yourself, and feel that if you did end up with this guy, he would maybe see something in you he didn't like. But these are the risks we take in relationships. Somethings work. Some don't. Go for it! You only live once.

And being a virgin at 19 ain't a problem. So what. I was one until I was almost 21. Big bloody deal.