chrismoyles.net
- Mon Nov 12, 2007 10:52 am
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Based on subsequent posts I have changed my mind, although think it's a strange way to sort your life out, NightyNight does seem genuine. And if indeed you are, I hope if you've read this far you aren't still taking Moonbeam's ridiculous assertion about the right age to lose your virginity seriously.
Another thing I think you might be taking too seriously is the concept of "going out" with a boy. It doesn't automatically commit you to anything, so try to stop panicking. Accepting a date doesn't mean you have to do ANYTHING except go on a date. It doesn't mean you have to sleep with him, kiss him even - or even go on any more dates with him if you don't want to.
From re-reading your original post I wonder if - from some of what you say - you are a bit scared by your own sex drive (you mentioned some intimate stuff anyway), maybe you are worried that you will get carried away by being with someone you like and end up doing stuff you think deep down you don't want to do yet? Or maybe you just think it will be expected of you? Maybe that makes you switch off from the reality when it becomes a possibility? It's ok to be physically attracted to someone and not have sex with them, and contrary to what some people might think, actually most people are aware of this and 90% of the sexual shenanigans people like to talk about is just that, talk. Most people aren't shagging anything that stays still long enough (except it seems in McChavsville).
Unfortunately the only advice I can give you is easier said than done - and that is RELAX! Try not to obsess about it, and try to regard these lads as people rather than boyfriends, that might help.
Another thing I think you might be taking too seriously is the concept of "going out" with a boy. It doesn't automatically commit you to anything, so try to stop panicking. Accepting a date doesn't mean you have to do ANYTHING except go on a date. It doesn't mean you have to sleep with him, kiss him even - or even go on any more dates with him if you don't want to.
From re-reading your original post I wonder if - from some of what you say - you are a bit scared by your own sex drive (you mentioned some intimate stuff anyway), maybe you are worried that you will get carried away by being with someone you like and end up doing stuff you think deep down you don't want to do yet? Or maybe you just think it will be expected of you? Maybe that makes you switch off from the reality when it becomes a possibility? It's ok to be physically attracted to someone and not have sex with them, and contrary to what some people might think, actually most people are aware of this and 90% of the sexual shenanigans people like to talk about is just that, talk. Most people aren't shagging anything that stays still long enough (except it seems in McChavsville).
Unfortunately the only advice I can give you is easier said than done - and that is RELAX! Try not to obsess about it, and try to regard these lads as people rather than boyfriends, that might help.
Charlalottie on Twitter wrote:Just remembered that I played pool with a satanist last night. Really should go out on a Friday more often.
Charlalottie wrote:Had a good night last night. We lost the pub quiz but had my hair plaited by a viking.
