[Boboff]

Yep, tiss true. If you sign up for something you should give it 100%, when your 35 with 15 kids and no life you will be wracked with guilt and shame at not putting your total effort into this opportunity to better yourself. There are many who can't afford the chance, who could if there were not so many drop outs.(the wasted money could be used to support them you see.)

Sorry, lecture over, but I will leave you with one piece of fatherly advice that he gave me, Never pass up on an opportunity and be left wishing if only.

[Boboff]

I went to the Co-Op, parked out front and went shopping. Came out to see a £80 fixed penalty notice, the council has bought the Co-ops bit of the Car park and now I have to pay 10p to park for an hour, which I wouldn't have minded if I had known.

[foot-loose]

could you try challenging them on it?

£80 seems very steep! I think the fine in Glasgow is £60 but if you pay within 14 days its only £30.

[rustybike]

I went to the Co-Op, parked out front and went shopping. Came out to see a £80 fixed penalty notice, the council has bought the Co-ops bit of the Car park and now I have to pay 10p to park for an hour, which I wouldn't have minded if I had known.

I'd definitely challenge them about this, if there are no signs around notifying you of the charges, they cannot charge you willy* nilly.
Plus... that parking fine is a bit steep. Like foots said; it's usually £60, but if you pay the fine within 14 days it's £30.















*hehe... willy...

[Andy B]

10p AN HOUR! Where I live it's 80p and where my mate lives it's 80p for SIX MINUTES!

[Bonanzoid]

I know what you mean Yuds, but I don't know what the hell I'd do. I don't want to waste my life, I just gotta try stick it out.

Plus, I'd rather not face the whole "Mum, Dad, I'm leaving uni and I don't know what I'm going to do with my pathetic existence" speech.

[Yudster]

I know what you mean Yuds, but I don't know what the hell I'd do. I don't want to waste my life, I just gotta try stick it out.

Plus, I'd rather not face the whole "Mum, Dad, I'm leaving uni and I don't know what I'm going to do with my pathetic existence" speech.

Well shape up then! Stop whining and feeling sorry for yourself and get sorted - catch up if you can, work your arse off and benefit from what your parents are paying for! How long did you actually think you'd be able to get away with simply not getting up in the morning for? Bonan, it's time to grow up mate.

[foot-loose]

I know what you mean Yuds, but I don't know what the hell I'd do. I don't want to waste my life, I just gotta try stick it out.

Plus, I'd rather not face the whole "Mum, Dad, I'm leaving uni and I don't know what I'm going to do with my pathetic existence" speech.

Well shape up then! Stop whining and feeling sorry for yourself and get sorted - catch up if you can, work your arse off and benefit from what your parents are paying for! How long did you actually think you'd be able to get away with simply not getting up in the morning for? Bonan, it's time to grow up mate.

While I can see what you are saying Mrs Yuds - that sounds a bit harsh to me.

I was in a similar position to young Bonanzoid - it's all well and good saying "get up and get sorted" but it's not really that simple. The way I see it, when you are in nursery, the next step is junior school, then senior school. The problem comes after that - you either go to college, university or you get a job. While some kids parents maybe dont give a shit what happens to them when they leave school, others put a lot of pressure on them to go on to further education because it is generally regarded as the best way to go.

I don't believe university is for everyone and I don't believe that having a degree promises you a decent job. In fact, the majority of people I was at uni with are not doing anything related to their degree (only one is, that I can think of) and a lot of them had major problems getting a job once they left.

Experience seems to count a hell of a lot more than education to a lot of companies. I can see that the argument about "if two people go for a job, one has a degree, the other doesnt - which one should get the job"... but realistically, thats not the way it works. Not from my perhaps naive experience anyways.

On top of that, things may have changed in the last four years, but the way it worked when I was at uni - the parents didn't pay for it, SAAS did?

Personally, I wish I had made the decision to leave uni a long time before I did. I wasted time, effort and money (resits etc) that I didn't need to. Just because he doesnt want to be at uni doesn't make him a failure. It's his tiny penis that does that.

[Sunny So Cal]

Haha. Methinks Bonan is not going to appreciate that last bit, Footsy. Is that even allowed? A dig at someone within the Scotchlander contingent? It seems wrong

[foot-loose]

He shouldn't have sent me those photos then. I'm nothing but honest, Sunny.

[Sunny So Cal]

You have photos of him, too?! Now, now. Play nice. That's hitting below the belt and the poor boy isn't even here to defend himself.

[foot-loose]

That's hitting below the belt and the poor boy isn't even here to defend himself.

He don't have anything down there to defend!


This is getting off topic (shocker) - in all seriousness, I was defending him - I have been in his situation and it's not nice.

(The uni situation... my penis is that large, i needed to apply for planning permission.)

[Andy B]

Ouch Lalottie on form tonight!

I sometimes regret not finishing my degree but then again I had loads of fun missing my courses and I'm minted and live in a castle now so I don't care too much. I just found a job I could do standing on my head and made myself so useful to them that they pay me a fortune!

However the thing that's annoying me most today is that while, yes I can get the BBC iPlayer on my iPhone, I cannot unfortunately "listen again" to the show. I've tried it every which way I can and it's just not possible. I can stream the Podcasts but I could do that anyway with qi-fi so I'm a bit miffed now.

Oh and I have a willy of unbelievable size.

[foot-loose]

Ouch Lalottie on form tonight!

Is she balls.

That was a piss comeback.

[Sunny So Cal]

Haha! No, it wasn't.

And then the planning commission said whether you added on or not, it was still such a picayunishly teensy matter that they didn't want to invest in microscopes for every member of the panel (thereby wasting taxpayer funds) to delve further into this diminutive issue. They therefore abstained from the topic full stop.

[foot-loose]

And then the planning commission said whether you added on or not, it was still such a picayunishly teensy matter that they didn't want to invest in microscopes for every member of the panel (thereby wasting taxpayer funds) to delve further into this diminutive issue. They therefore abstained from the topic full stop.

Suck. Ma. Boaby.

[Yudster]

I know what you mean Yuds, but I don't know what the hell I'd do. I don't want to waste my life, I just gotta try stick it out.

Plus, I'd rather not face the whole "Mum, Dad, I'm leaving uni and I don't know what I'm going to do with my pathetic existence" speech.

Well shape up then! Stop whining and feeling sorry for yourself and get sorted - catch up if you can, work your arse off and benefit from what your parents are paying for! How long did you actually think you'd be able to get away with simply not getting up in the morning for? Bonan, it's time to grow up mate.

While I can see what you are saying Mrs Yuds - that sounds a bit harsh to me.

I was in a similar position to young Bonanzoid - it's all well and good saying "get up and get sorted" but it's not really that simple.

I completely agree footy, and I'm sorry if it sounded harsh Bonan - but footy, you are talking about making the decision whether to continue or to give up. If uni really isn't for you, then of course it's better to give up, but Bonan has clearly said here that he is going to try to stick it out. Well, if that's the decision he has made, then there isn't any alternative but to be pretty clinical about it is there? If he really has decided that he is going to make a go of it, then he has to get out of the indecisive mindset which allows him to be equivocal about it and really committ, and that takes conscious, specific action. That's all I was getting at.

[Vivienne]

I know what you mean Yuds, but I don't know what the hell I'd do. I don't want to waste my life, I just gotta try stick it out.

Plus, I'd rather not face the whole "Mum, Dad, I'm leaving uni and I don't know what I'm going to do with my pathetic existence" speech.

I agree with Foots on this: Uni isn't for all people. I went to Stirling a long time ago (coughs), and dropped out. I hated Uni., absolutely not for me. And it's not the end of the World. I, for example, went back into H. E. (college), and retrained for something else. Maybe talk to Student Counselling service too? I did this at the time.

[kendra k]

I don't think Footy's and Yudster's positions are mutually exclusive. Really, the choice is up to Bonan, but if he is going to stick it out in uni, then he really needs to put full effort into it. My brother floundered for years because he couldn't get the motivation to do well in college and it took him years to dig himself out of the hole he made for himself- deep debt from wasted tuition, a GPA less than 1, etc. It became worse when I started uni because I'm younger and he thought he should have gotten in before me. Once he cleaned up everything and really decided he wanted to go to uni, he did quite well, but it took years for him to figure it out.

I heard it's harder to take a break in the UK and then re-enter, is that a possibility? A number of my friends have taken a year (or more) off, and it's really helped them focus later on and do well. Viv's right about the student counselling.

[Bonanzoid]

Yudster - no need to apologise for that, it may have been blunt but you're bang on.

The last few weeks have sucked boabies, I was overwhelmed, stressed and generally down and may have therefore missed too many classes to be able to continue with my course. Annoying thing is it wasn't due to my laziness, it was that I took the coward's way out when I should have just confronted it, and I just hope it hasn't come to bite me in the arse.

I am awaiting correspondence from my Spanish course tutor as to whether I can continue with the course or not. If I can, I've had enough of my self-despondency and whining, and I'm gonna buck up and just dig in. If I have already put the final nail in my coffin, I will have to resit 2nd year, meaning I'll be in for a 6 year degree, and then it would involve facing the parents. If all goes well and I'm still in, the parents need not ever know.

Thanks to everyone for their advice though.

(Foots - your initial comments on those photos contradict what you've been saying on here, you hypocrite)

[foot-loose]

I don't think Footy's and Yudster's positions are mutually exclusive. Really, the choice is up to Bonan

This is true.

(Foots - your initial comments on those photos contradict what you've been saying on here, you hypocrite)

My initial comment was "did the sheep mind you doing that?".

[Yudster]

............. If I can, I've had enough of my self-despondency and whining, and I'm gonna buck up and just dig in.

Good on you. Best of luck Bonan.

[TIAL]

While some kids parents maybe dont give a shit what happens to them when they leave school, others put a lot of pressure on them to go on to further education because it is generally regarded as the best way to go.

Well said.

My parents are both very business oriented, and both look through CVs of possible employees to work with them. Due to sheer volume of applicants, if they don't see a 2.1 degree (or higher) on the CV they'll just reject it straight away - there are already enough people with a good degree qualification, so why spend time looking at the others?
I won't debate whether that's the correct approach or not, but the fact is that this is what quite often happens if you are looking to work in a business. Therefore, I, as well as many of my friends have been pressured to go to Uni (we never discussed the possibility of me not going) - because in our parents day, a degree was much more important than it probably is now. If I don't come out with a 2.1 or higher i'll have to fund my way through the retakes untill I do.
If I didn't love Uni so much i'd be in a terrible situation right now.

[rustybike]

Annoying me today... i've had a tooth out... which is great as that means no more dental work but not being able to drink or smoke is bit of a bitch! Plus, the lovely cotton wool thing makes me dribble and attempting to talk makes me sound like the elephant man.

How attractive am I eh...... I hope mrs rustybike doesn't divorce me.

[Bonanzoid]

Annoying me today - some jackass has spilt something sticky (hopefully fizzy juice, and Foots - no puns please) on the mousemat.