- Tue Dec 04, 2012 1:53 pm
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My daughter gets plenty of help and support and the older she gets, the wiser she gets. I often get comments like "i want to be more like you Dad" or things in a similar vein. While I see your point Yuds, the ex isn't the sort of person who you could have that chat with anyway, so to minimise open conflict, I stay schtum.
This whole situation came to a head a few months ago when she revealed that on their summer holidays, her mother had told her she was an unplanned pregnancy! I mean, WTF?!! So, since then we have had numerous quite adult conversations, ones I suspected I'd have to have at some point, but not for a good few years yet (maybe like, at 18-25, not 10).
E often moans to me about the ex's new Boyf (they've had another child since), silly things he does etc. Now, I have to take a lot of this with a large pinch o salt (you remeber how hard it is being a child...) but there ain't smoke without fire. Two weeks ago E told me she'd finally plucked up the courage to speak to her Ma about him and how he makes her feel. I had to speak to her mother later that evening about an unrelated subject. I happened to mention at the end of the call what E had told me - I got the phone hung up on me. On the drop off I was told "You don't need to ring me every time E moans to you about something". this was the first time I'd ever mentioned anything of the sort - but she is that sort of hostile person.
E is in no doubt that she is THE most important thing in the world to me and that will never change. She is more and more aware of who is the more responsible of her two parents.
Sure, I could pull up the Ex and point out; although you shouldn't care what I think, you should care what she thinks. But that'd be deemed as 'sticking my nose in' and would in turn only be greeted with hositility, so I don't bother.
Thanks for the support Nath and Bob, and thanks for caring Yuds - I know you meant no harm. I can't deny its a tricky situation, but I look out for me and E - she is all that matters.
I've actually met Chris n shook his hand. This fact is still causing slight issues in my trouser dept....
Yudster wrote:Best post ever.
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