but it seems like every thread becomes an IM conversation.
That's probably because no-one else is online to join in.
For God's sake it's a bloody forum. I've been on enough to know this is the status quo for people that hang out here treating it like a pub. Your attitude is more the kind that comes on a Sunday for the special roast or something.
There's room for everyone, why cause a fight? NO NEEEED!