[Nicola_Red]

I don't have any reason for asking, other than that i'm bored and mildly curious. Are you single, married, long term r/ship, or something else? Please feel free to embellish with any details...how long you've been with your significant other, etc.

I'll start. I am single and have been for about 18 months. I date and have a few "special friends", but I'm quite settled in my ways and have some weird little routines, and I don't really feel like I have room in my life for an other half. Maybe I'll change my mind in the future...

[Zoot]

Special Friends? You mean F* buddies?
I'm in a Long term relationship (2 years)

[Nicola_Red]

Special Friends? You mean F* buddies?

yes, that's what I mean, pretty much.

[Zoot]

I was in that position a few years ago, till she went 'a bit funny'...

[Ballbag]

The current Mrs Ballbag and I have been together for 4 years and married for 2.

Aside from her and the queues of ladies waiting in the wings should anything happen to Mrs Ballbag (God forbid) that's all for me.

[Nicola_Red]

I was in that position a few years ago, till she went 'a bit funny'...

hahaha. It's all about understanding of the relationship. You have to know yourself and the way your feelings work very well for it to not end in tears, I think. One of mine is one of my best friends in the world.

[catherine]

I'm single have had a fair few boyfriends, have a date tonight, i just go with the flow i'm not looking for love or a boyfriend..whatever happens, happens.

[Zoot]

I'm single have had a fair few boyfriends, have a date tonight, i just go with the flow i'm not looking for love or a boyfriend..whatever happens, happens.

You don't half look like Posh Spice on your Faceparty Sig, Catherine...

[catherine]

which pic? lol

[Zoot]

The one with you next to a Blonde girl

[Nicola_Red]

The one with you next to a Blonde girl

The one she posted in the 'post your face' thread? yeah, i can see that.

[catherine]

Demon horse said debbie from hollyoaks lol its just a half decent picture

[DemonHorse]

Is there an option for 'Single and Hating it'?

and yes from that picture in 'Post Your Face' you do remind me of Jodi Albert aka Hollyoaks Debbie (though she aint been in that for a while)

[Nicola_Red]

Is there an option for 'Single and Hating it'?

You can have any option you like DH, that's why I put "feel free to embellish". I have moments where I hate it too. Not many, but they do exist.

[MK Chris]

There is indeed a Mrs Topher (as most people know) and has been for just under two and a half years. Its her birthday tomorrow as well.

[Sidders]

I'm single and have been for 25 years.

[Quincy]

thats because you spent the last 5 years of your life on here

[Yudster]

........ but I'm quite settled in my ways and have some weird little routines, and I don't really feel like I have room in my life for an other half. Maybe I'll change my mind in the future...

After husband number 1 died in 1995, I remember feeling just like that - I really couldn't see how or why I would want to disrupt my life by having to include another adult in it, especially not one who would be entitled to have an opinion about how things should be done! But these things take you by surprise. I first met Mr Yudster in early 1996 - we got on well, but I was very aware that he was extremely young, and he really wasn't my type anyway, even if I was going to give in to any dirty "old" woman type urges (which I wasn't). The strange thing was that I have a very clear recollection of thinking to myself, for absolutely no reason I could see at the time, "I bet I end up marrying him". Over the next three years I reckon we saw each other about five times - usually at church events, but we always got on well. We kind of became closer friends in late 1999, and drifted together over the first part of 2000. I was - and if I'm honest, sometimes still am - concerned about the age difference, but by the beginning of March it was so clearly right, we decided to stay together. We got married in September 2000, had a baby in 2004, and have lived in contented chaos ever since.

[pjordan2000]

I'm in a long term relationship (2 and a half years). my girlfriend needs a medal for being wit me that long

[MK Chris]

I was - and if I'm honest, sometimes still am - concerned about the age difference

I'm sure you've said this at some point, but is it a substantial age difference?

Age differences matter less as people get older - I'm 23 and if I was single I wouldn't consider dating a 16 year old, but if I was 57, a 50 year old would not be a problem. However, I get the feeling from what you've said that your age difference is quite a bit more than seven years.

[Yudster]

Twelve years. And a half. Not as much as Demi and Ashton - but then the fact that Demi Moore is actually older than me is, on some days, the only thing that keeps me going. Well, not the only thing, but you know what I mean.

[foot-loose]

Woooo - another quote-a-thon

Are you single, married, long term r/ship, or something else?

Demonhorse covered it with:

Is there an option for 'Single and Hating it'?

So that covers me as well. Thing is, im still at home and I don't think my choice of partner would fit in too well with my folks philosophy on life. This should change soon though (i hope!).

Its her birthday tomorrow as well.

Wish her all the best from me. That should scare her.

Twelve years. And a half. Not as much as Demi and Ashton - but then the fact that Demi Moore is actually older than me is, on some days, the only thing that keeps me going.

*Does the maths*

Im sure your not gonna read my reply and suddenly think "Oh that makes it so much better now - some dude on an internet forum typed out a couple of words and now I can feel a lot more comfortable in my marrige".

However, two things - This guy is, im sure, old enough to know exactly what he is involved with as are you. It clearly doesnt bother either of you enough to not be together so why even bother wasting time thinking about it. That leads on to the second thing - is the reason that you worry about it not because of how you two feel, its about how you think everyone else sees the two of you? If thats the case, what advice would you give a couple that love each other and worry about the same thing?

Just became single again, after dumping my bf on monday. That was a relief actually but like someone else.
Oh the joys of being a teenager.

You went out with him for about four hours. That surely can't count?

Im I judging this from the wrong age group?

[Yudster]

Twelve years. And a half. Not as much as Demi and Ashton - but then the fact that Demi Moore is actually older than me is, on some days, the only thing that keeps me going.

*Does the maths*

Im sure your not gonna read my reply and suddenly think "Oh that makes it so much better now - some dude on an internet forum typed out a couple of words and now I can feel a lot more comfortable in my marrige".

However, two things - This guy is, im sure, old enough to know exactly what he is involved with as are you. It clearly doesnt bother either of you enough to not be together so why even bother wasting time thinking about it. That leads on to the second thing - is the reason that you worry about it not because of how you two feel, its about how you think everyone else sees the two of you? If thats the case, what advice would you give a couple that love each other and worry about the same thing?

Its more shallow and selfish than either of those things really - I just think it would probably be reasonable for a 38 year old (which he will be, one day!) to probably not want to be married to a 50 year old (which he also will be, one day.......) - its not a primary concern, but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't a real one.

[Nicola_Red]

I'm always attracted to younger men too, so I may well have the same concerns one day. The fact that I can't have children complicates it further. But I'll worry about it when I come to it!

[Yudster]

Oh sorry, double post - my advice would be to think carefully, don't ignore possible problems (but don't necessarily think of a problem as a barrier), and be sure. Beyond that, I have no advice to give!